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a key feature in decision-making

Eric wants to sell his father’s house


Eric is not feeling fond of his father right now. Ike refused to deal with things when he was healthy, but now he needs to be in an assisted care facility  and his assets need to be liquidated to pay for his care. In his prime, Ike was sure he could do anything. His house is one he built by himself in the 1970’s. The problem is, he never quite finished it. He never quite finished a lot of other projects as well. His yard reflects this. He lives on a back road in a rural area so there is no home-owners’ association to hold him accountable. So now his son, wanting to be kind, is faced with emptying a house and out-buildings, doing what repairs seem feasible, and making the property appeal to a potential buyer.

 Ike never liked to make decisions but now that his son is dealing with his property he wants to have a say about everything in order to have a sense of control.   

In order to get his father to deal with reality, Eric is asking him how likely he is to want particular items with him in his new living arrangements. Ike has a small apartment unit within a larger building so space is severely limited. He is likely to want some items from his home with him but now the time has come when he must really make decisions. Items from inside the home are more likely to fit into his apartment. These include furniture, clothing, personal care items, and sentimental items such a photos. Ike gets hung up on the things he can’t take. There are so many of them. The problem it brings up for him is the sense of regret and loss that he is not now and never will be the guy who could do everything and would get around to it all eventually.

Situations like this are cropping up all over Maine and other rural areas as the Baby Boomers of the back-to-the-land movement are advancing into old age and the generation that would never grow old has done exactly that.