These days I am long past any interest in being “youthful”. I am what I am and what you see is what you get. Instead, my concerns are about managing my energy and my short-term memory. I am also concerned about my ability to continue to live in my own house as I age and what to do when that is no longer possible. When my friends and I get together I find we have the same concerns. So, I offer myself as an aging coach and a coach who is aging.
This is for all the “Grandmas” out there who want to be in charge of what happens to their ‘stuff’. You need to be strong in order to wade into the rooms full of accumulations.
Manifesto # 1 – You need to be going through your stuff.
Manifesto # 2 – Sorting is therapy.
Manifesto # 3 – Everything has a story to tell.
Manifesto # 4 – Be kind to yourself… ” No shame – no blame”
Manifesto # 5 – Some people will be unhappy.
Manifesto # 6 – “Fairness” varies.
Manifesto # 7 – It’s Yours, not theirs.
My thoughts exactly:
the larger the library you have in your head, the longer it usually takes to find a particular word (or pair).
Scientists who study thinking and memory often make a broad distinction between “fluid” and “crystallized” intelligence. The former includes short-term memory, like holding a phone number in mind, analytical reasoning, and the ability to tune out distractions, like ambient conversation. The latter is accumulated knowledge, vocabulary and expertise.
I know this is true because my skills as a web-master are very fluid. They flow out of my memory way too fast as I try to figure out what I am doing with my website and setting up a newsletter but recipes which entered long term storage years ago never fail me and everyone thinks I am an intuitive cook.